When you meet another female your age that wants to follow the exact same career path as you, do you see her as competition?
It is jealousy in its harshest form – jealousy of success.
These feelings are real and unfortunately seem to exist in society.
Of the few networking events and career advice talks I’ve attended, I’ve consistently encountered these types of young women.
These girls always seem judgemental and never are genuinely pleased when they learn the career path I want to lead is the same as theirs.
In contrast, when speaking to a guy who’s career ambition mirrors mine – there is no jealousy or judgement there at all.
But why does this jealousy amongst females exist?
I have always wondered why there is a need to compete, or get to your dream quicker or faster than another woman. Why can’t you both succeed?
Young women, in particular, need to stop being jealous of another’s success. There is no use in obsessing over someone else’s accomplishments or failures.
Where did this competition begin and why do girls feel the need to compare themselves with others? Surely, we should be motivating our fellow females to succeed – what ever happened to ‘Girl Power’ after all!
Googling ‘female empowerment’ pulls up 18,600,000 results online of plenty of news articles featuring senior women in the limelight who are promoting the term.
Simply by diverting all the negative energy into something positive, can ultimately help you lead a better life and help you in your own successes.
Social networking means it’s easy to constantly compare yourself to your peers.
While healthy competition can be a good thing, blatant jealousy is not.
I’ve learnt that if you want to be successful in life, being your own competition is far better than fixating on someone else’s triumphs.
So what if your classmate got 90% in a test, and you only got 60%?
So what if she’s been promoted, and you are only an intern?
The world is sometimes unfair – deal with it. Some people have better opportunities and make the most of thier luck.
You can do nothing of it, except create your own successes.
Fantasizing about your jealousy will take you nowhere – but you know this already, and you certainly don’t need me to lecture you on that!
I firmly champion the ideal that women need to encourage fellow females to rise to the top in their career paths, rather than be jealous of them, or see them as competition.
All I’m saying is, be self-motivated, and celebrate your achievements.
Be passionate about your life and respect your own ambition.
Great article on this topic: ‘How to Stop being Jealous of Someone Else’s Success?’